Late Night Conversations: Relationships and Life (Part One)
On Sunday night, following packdown, we found ourselves immersed in discussions about relationships, stories of origin, the mysteries of things that do and don’t end up working out. (I was just sharing about the early days of meeting my wife Jen, how we connected and so forth.) We even ventured into the risky territory of “relationship advice.”
It wouldn’t be the first time I’ve tried my hand at such things.
The Nuts and Bolts of Life
My friend Malcs once told me, in regard to messy relationship complexities, “These are the nuts and bolts of life.” I thought that was true.
When I was fresh faced and young(er), I had a revelation: “Life is all about people!” Of course, I laughed at myself for stating something so obvious. Nonetheless, it dawned bright and fresh like the early morning. Life is about people!
This basic and simple observation gets to the nuts and bolts of things and it’s helpful to think about relationships in that context.
We Can Get Better at Relationships
The term “relationships” describes how we “relate” to one another. In fact, it’s a connector phrase, so it goes beyond interpersonal use in its usefulness.
We want and need to be “good” at relationships. Life is about people, and the complexities of human relationships of all kinds require us to become skilled, compassionate, wise, and forward-thinking as we relate to one another.
Romantic Relationships, Briefly
Within the broad umbrella of relationships, romantic ones form a unique subset. They often come with their own set of challenges and complexities, and despite taking my time to get to it, that was, in fact, what our packdown chats were about.
But it’s helpful to note on the way in, that life is about people. Romantic relationships exist between people. The problems and mysteries we face in these spaces get into the nuts and bolts of life.
I’m going to leave it there for now, and I invite you to reflect on the following: How are you doing in your relationships? In what ways would you like to grow in “the nuts and bolts” of life?
What do you feel when I say “Life is all about people”? Do you agree? Do you disagree? How would you nuance it?
Finally, reflect on one of your close relationships at the moment. How might God be inviting you to “be” in that relationship? It’s empowering to remember that, although relationships can be messy, you can take responsibility for YOUR part in a relationship. And there’s always room for being proactive, positive, and loving.
Share Your Thoughts
If you’re in the mood for thinking out loud and creating some conversation, feel free to drop a comment or two below. I’d love to hear your thoughts on relationships and the ‘nuts and bolts’ of life. Until next time, take care!